As a Black woman this movie highlighted a lot of note. I would firstly like to commend Netflix on the diverse range of programs they offer. I truly feel like the internet is now becoming a space where people can easily see themselves. You can probably find a whole lot of other things as well if you look hard enough. Back to the point though. Nappily Ever After.
In summary, this film is about a Black African American woman with the stereotype perfect life. She works at a marketing agency, has the perfect boyfriends and steamily perfect life. All she is missing is the ring. She heads to a hair salon to get her hair done and instead of conditioner a relaxer is used. She loses a chuck of hair and requires a weave to correct the mistake. She doesn’t get proposed to but instead get a dog. He states that she was too perfect and he couldn’t marry her. She end up having a break down and shaving all her hair off in a fit of alcohol fueled rage. She’s then end up failing in love with the hairdresser who first messed up her hair because he embraced her natural beauty.
A very simple and overused plot line but entertaining none the less. This film explored a lot of issues within the black community. Marriage, mother daughter relationships, hair and colourism but I’ll keep it short. The biggest issue I found was the leading female need for male validation. She felt that she as incomplete until a man was connect to here. Even at the point she decided to reclaim her identity she seemed to lose it again once she got involved with the other dude. There is a power that comes with knowing yourself and being confident in your skins. This can be attractive to many people even those who don’t have the confidence and will use you to be connected to that energy. Not everything that is good is good for you. As humans we need to be more attentive to who we are allowing into our spheres. We should always strive to love people but we must first love ourselves. The End